UnComfortably Confident
Hey guys! My name is Chandra and I am beyond excited to be sharing with you all. God has really been pushing me to do a lot of uncomfortable things in these past few months. We all know that nobody likes being uncomfortable but when God says move, YOU MOVE! So when Celine asked me to do this I knew this was just another task for me to walk out my faith. With that being said, I need you all to know that I am thrilled and extremely grateful to Celine for the opportunity to share pieces of my heart. My hope and prayer is that you all walk away knowing that you are truly loved and seen by the God who created you uniquely YOU!
So,
What does it mean to be truly confident? What does it look like? How does it feel?
Growing up I wasn’t necessarily what you would call confident. Confidence is definitely one of those things that I’ve had to fight for over the course of my life. On the outside I used to embody a very false sense of confidence, while on the inside I was constantly second guessing myself. Overthinking things and often times concerned with the opinions of others. Naturally I would say that I’m someone who loves to make other people happy aka a people pleaser (shhh don’t tell anyone). In all honesty I don’t think trying to make others happy is a bad thing. Where the problem lies is when you trade in your own happiness, confidence, and self-worth in order to satisfy the needs/happiness of someone else.
I really believe that today’s society and culture make it so hard to be accepting of yourself. Accepting of all that God has blessed you with. My pastor often says that “comparison is the thief of joy” and I believe that so strongly. I believe it because I’ve seen it played out in my own life. So many times in my life I have looked at other women and thought man she’s so confident! Look at how she carries herself! Look at her makeup! Look at her clothes! And the list goes on. But in actuality what does confidence look like? I think that often times we get so obsessed with the idea of what confidence appears to be on the outside when in reality confidence DOES NOT have a look.
Real confidence is being afraid and doing it anyway. It’s leveling up in spite of fear. Confidence is not allowing yourself to be defined by the words of other people. It is walking in the full authority of who God has called you to be. In Ephesians 1:3-8, God calls us blessed, he calls us chosen, loved, blameless, accepted, adopted, redeemed, and forgiven.
Throughout my journey of faith, it has not always been the easiest to walk in full confidence. The enemy has a way of making us think that our past disqualifies us from all the things that God says that we are. Yes, we all know that Jesus died on the cross for our sins but are we forgiven for real? To answer my own question and maybe yours too, YES!! Jesus didn’t die so that we can live in the bondage of comparison, fear, worthlessness, or any other lie the enemy would try to tell us.
Now I’m not going to sit here and tell you that you will wake up every day and feel confident and that is okay. But what I will say is that our God is not a man that can and will ever lie. So in knowing that, we can all walk around with the full confidence that we are loved and that God has made us exactly the way we needed to be made in order to fulfill his will in this ever so crazy earth.
I love you guys but always remember that God loves you the most!
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